Do I just want to be friends...

From a Female

So you’ve been on a couple of dates and you are questioning...
uh-oh, this guy or girl isn’t for me? it’s fine if you aren’t totally developing a
crush on this new interest.
here are some signs that you may be ending up in the friend zone.

1. #1 and the most obvious - there is no chemistry. you have zero desire to
kiss or hold hands or get to know each other better. this one is simple...if
you’re not feeling it you’re not feeling it!

2. You feel guilty that you’re not that into him or her. this person is so nice
and you want to have feelings for them...but guess what? you can’t force it. so
if you feel guilty it’s a sign that you aren’t that into them.

3. You avoid physical and romantic contact. when you are really into
someone you are really into them. if you avoid holding hands or snuggling
then something is missing.

4. You can’t imagine going away with them for a weekend. the mere
thought of a road trip or an excursion gives you the quivers...and not in a good
way. basically, You just are not that into him or her. you’re not into spending
lots of time together.

5. Last but not least they are forgettable. there are not long moments of
daydreaming. You don’t find yourself fantasizing and imagining happy
moments of bliss.

Remember, it’s OK to just feel a friend vibe with someone you are dating. now
it’s up to you to end things in a kind manner...So do you want to know how to
tell someone you just want to be friends? advice on autism and dating is
available on uneepi.com.

So guys, you are in the friend zone. This is when you like the girl but she does not like you as anything other than a friend. I know, it stinks. You feel like you'd make a great boyfriend, but she does not feel that way. So what do you do? There are a couple of options. 

From a Guy

1) Make sure your feelings are obvious. 

Basically, you just need to tell her how you feel. A lot of times, the things that Rebecca talkes about aren't verbalized. It may just be little social things such as taking longer to answer messages, or make plans that indicate you are in the friend zone. If you have the conversation to say that I want to be more, at least you will definitely know where you stand. 

2) If it is verbalized, it's time for a cost benefit. If she does not want to be in a relationship, but wants to be friends you have to determine how much that friendship is worth vs. the perceived value of a possible relationship. If it does not match up you may need to walk away from that friendship. If the value of the friendship is high, then keep it going.

3). Walk away outright. Know your worth guys. If someone doesn't want to be in a relationship with you there is someone that does want to be. 

4. What you don't do is harass her or belittle her decisions. Respect her choices.